Raise your hand if you stop to get coffee in the morning before you go to work or school. Or maybe you got to a specific place to get breakfast or lunch. If you are raising your hand, think about the place you go. Do you go to the same place every day? If you do go to the same place, say Starbucks for example, is there a specific location that you go? I’m willing to bet it has something to do with the friendly atmosphere. Did you know that being friendly can go a long way not just in terms of getting repeat customers, but also in life itself?
This morning I decided to go to Starbucks before work. Something was a bit different today, however, because as I drove away I found myself wondering why I go to that particular Starbucks over any other. There were at least two other Starbucks that I pass on my way into work, or could pass, but every time that I decide to make a stop for a Which Chocolate Mocha (to die for!) I go to the same Starbucks location. What makes things odder about this is that there is a Starbucks on my campus, which would be more convenient for me to go to.
Why this one instead of that one?
The friendly atmosphere is why I go to this particular Starbucks location over any other ones. Of course it doesn’t hurt that they have my Birthday cake, cake pops every time I go unlike other stores, but primarily I find myself at this Starbucks because of how friendly not only the employees are, but also the other customers. Anyone could walk into that store and be greeted with a warm smile and laughter. When they take your order, they ask for your name and if you go often enough, they will know you by name and order. It’s welcoming and you’re more than dollar signs.
You Catch More Flies with Honey
Remember when you were young and your mother would tell you that you catch more flies with honey than vinegar? Guess what…SHE WAS RIGHT! Sometimes it doesn’t always seem as though being friendly gets you far and maybe even sometimes you feel as though it only gets you stepped on and walked all over, but before you jump to conclusions, let’s think about it a bit more.
Look at the Starbucks scenario with me and your scenarios with going to your favorite restaurants, coffee shops and stores. We go to these places not only because they provide us with what we need, but because the people that work at these establishments are friendly and make us feel welcome. You don’t want to go to a place where they’re going to treat you badly, be mean, or rude to you. The same could be said for anywhere you go, a mechanic, a library, a store, or even a blog or forum. I want to go out a limb and say that it’s natural for us to want to be surrounded by those with friendly personalities, which you can see by looking at those you surround yourself with.
Instead of looking at businesses you frequent, look at the friends you surround yourself with. Are they primarily friendly or do they often have a bad attitude? You will probably find that you’re surrounded by friendly people, or at least people that are friendly to you. This isn’t necessarily always the case, but from what I’ve seen, generally this is how it is. You don’t want to be friends with someone who is going to put you down every time they see you or be a negative Nancy whenever they’re around. I know I sure don’t!
On the Job
I’ve heard that in a lot of today’s industries you have to be “ruthless” to get ahead, but I don’t think that’s always the case. In some cases, you may need to be ruthless and cutthroat to get ahead, but I’ve also found that being friendly can get you just as far, if not farther, at your place of employment. It may not seem this way because the jerks always seem to get the better paying positions, but it’s much easier to build relationships when you’re friendly. People don’t want to be around the jerk and the same can be said for bosses and supervisors. Your day will come, just continue being friend and working hard.
Generally, people want to be around friendly people that they are comfortable interacting with. This can be applied not only to friends and family, but at work, at school and in life. Negative people who are rude may get all the money and the higher paying jobs sometimes, but nobody really wants to be around them. Be friendly, be helpful, be genuine and you’ll go farther in life than you could have ever imagined.
Until Next Time!
What makes you pick your favorite restaurants and other service providers?
How has being friendly helped you?
Who do you prefer to surround yourself with and work with?Photo Credits: Wonderlane (Featured photo) Lisa M Photography
Posted on May 13, 2013 by Felicia