10 Ways to Spice up Your Sex Life

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Let’s face it: sticking to the same sex routine can become boring very quickly. It becomes a chore that you don’t feel like doing and you end up making excuses as to why you don’t want to do it.

You want to spice things up a bit, but you’re having a mental block as to how to do that.

Spicing up your sex life is easier than you may think it is.

It’s all about changing things up a bit every now and then so you aren’t stuck doing the same thing over and over again.

#1 Roleplay

You have sexual fantasies. We all do, so don’t be embarrassed of them, instead, act on them.

Roleplaying is a great way to spice up your sex life. Take on a different persona, dress in ways you would never dress on a regular basis and act out your fantasies.

Whether it’s playing a sexy school girl who has to stay after class for extra credit, strangers meeting for the first time or even adultery (your wife or husband takes on a role of someone else while your wife or husband are out for the evening). The possibilities are really endless.

Feeling a little shy about roleplaying with your significant other? It’s okay! Try easing into it by going online and roleplaying with one another through email, instant messenger or what have you.

You still take on the role of whomever you want to, but instead of being in person, there’s a computer separating you. You can always take it to the bedroom, or wherever is the most appropriate, after you get started.

Pick a fantasy (or two or three or more) and act them out with one another whether it is in person or online. Taking on different roles can really spice things up.

#2 Kama Sutra

They wrote an entire text of different sex positions; try them out! Instead of sticking to the same old position you usually find yourself in, change it up every now and then. Missionary is not the only position you have to be in to have sex.

If you want to try something new out, but you aren’t sure what position to attempt, go to your local book store. They have at least five books on Kama Sutra with hundreds of different positions.

Feeling a little embarrassed about going to a book store to look up some new sex positions? No problem! Put “Kama Sutra” into your favorite browser and you’ll find there are plenty of websites that are more than happily to give you a hand with finding a new position with detailed instructions as to how to go about performing them.

#3 Foreplay

Instead of jumping right into having sex, why not try a little foreplay? This doesn’t have to happen right before you have sex, but can happen throughout the day.

Touch and/or kiss your significant other on their favorite body places. Throughout the day, make excuses to run your hand on their thigh or brush gently against their hand.

Instead of sitting side-by-side, sit on your significant other’s lap. It will drive them crazy if don’t sit too still.

#4 Play Dress up

Play dress up may or may not be connected with roleplaying; however, sometimes it’s nice to dress in something that makes you feel sexy.

Pick up a new sexy lingerie outfit and show it off to your significant other by stripping down to it slowly or by revealing yourself after they’ve lain down in bed. Or maybe you’ve picked up a nurse, French maid or school girl outfit you’ve been dying to try out.

Dress up for your significant other and always keep them guessing as to what you’ll be wearing next.

#5 Pornography

Many people seem to feel that porn is just for the guys, but that simply isn’t true. They make porn for every one of every orientation, ethnicity, culture, interests, and then some.

Spend some time with your significant other watching pornography to see how you like it. It can be a real turn on for some, while it won’t be for others.

If you’re not comfortable with watching, you could also try reading what is called “literotica,” which are pornographic stories.

#6 Shop till You Drop

What girl doesn’t love shopping? Well, this kind of shopping can be fun for the guys as well.

Try spicing up your sex life by doing some shopping whether online or in a store. Pick up some sex toys to try out or even a sexy outfit to go along with your roleplay of the night.

#7 Try Something New

If you’re stuck in the same old routine of having sex at night on the same night, for example, spice it up a bit!

Change what you’re doing around and stop doing the same, old boring thing every time you have sex. Try different positions or even try having sex in a new location whether it is in the living room instead of the bedroom or a hotel instead of your house.

You can also try something like light bondage. Take control of your significant other and let the roles be reversed to add something new into your sex life.

Tantalizing sweets can also do the body good. Try bringing some chocolate or other sweets into the bedroom, but remember, these can get a little messy. All the better to lick up though, right?

#8 Naughty Notes

Feeling frisky? Leave your significant other some “naughty notes” around the house or even in their email to let them know what’s on your mind.

You can also text them throughout the day to let them know what’s on your mind. It can be a real turn-on to think about the things you and your significant other will be doing later that night.

#9 Plan Ahead or Not

Some people enjoy routines while others throw them out the window. If you’re one who sticks to a solid schedule for when you have sex, try throwing it out the window and being more spontaneous.

If you’re someone who doesn’t have a routine, try one out. By having a routine, you could plan something special for the night like meeting up at a fancy restaurant or somewhere that you can roleplaying out a fantasy that you’ve been dying to try.

This would also be the ideal time to try having sex at different times throughout the day whether planned or unplanned.

#10 Let’s Talk About Sex

It may seem silly or even a little embarrassing to talk about sex with your significant other, but finding out what they’re interested in, what they’re fantasies and desires are can really help to spice up your sex life.

Learn more about your partner and their interests when it comes to having sex so you don’t have to play it by ear and guess what they want to do or try out. Remember, we’re not psychics and don’t always know what you want to happen in the bedroom.

So speak up and talk about what you want and are willing to try.

Now that you know some tips and tricks to spice up your sex life, get out there and put them to good use!

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What tips and tricks do you use to spice up your sex life?

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