Every now and then we feel can feel as if we’re out of place in the world. Everywhere that we thought we fit into we suddenly feel as if we’re unwanted. We know somewhere deep in our hearts that that isn’t the case, but we can’t help but feel it. We’re lonely and want nothing more but to fit in and be the “popular” person of the group. Normally being popular isn’t a priority or a worry, but once in a blue moon, it becomes the most important thing in the world to us. We do everything to become the person everyone wants to be with and talk to when in reality we don’t need to try that hard. So how do we handle the time when we suddenly feel the need to be the “alpha” figure in the group?
Personally I’ve been experiencing the sudden need to be “popular” though I can’t explain why. I don’t even know that others go through this, but I figured in case anyone does, it’d be nice to know that they’re not alone and I am in the same boat as well. Usually the sudden urge to be number one only lasts a few days, but over the years of experiencing this, I’ve come up with some ways to deal with these feelings. Let me share with you what has worked for me.
Talk it Out:
One thing I did when I was in my “I must be popular!” mood was to talk it out. I talked to my husband about everything that was happening and he clued me into what I was doing and essentially told me to stop it. That didn’t exactly work, but I was more aware that I was starting to spiral into a place I didn’t want to be in. Talking about it is better than holding it all in after all; it gets all of your feelings out on the table and whomever you’re talking to may have a bit more insight of what may be going on with you than you do at the time.
Take a Break:
When I was in my slump, taking a break is what really got me out of it. I pretty much disappeared from my “online life” and spent a lot of my time with my family. It really relaxed me to be able to go out with them and just spend time with them. It’s a place that I know in my heart and soul that I’ll always fit in no matter what happens. So, take a break from everything and just do something that you know you can lean on. If you love writing, sit and concentrate on writing or play video games and forget about the world around you for a little while. It’s soothing to know that there’s a place where you’re always belong and never be judged, so find that place and take a break by going there.
Think & Remember:
Thinking back to a couple of weeks prior to when you started feeling as if you wanted nothing but everyone’s attention is another good way to put things into perspective for you. Remember that you do have friend and family that care about you just the way you are—even if you aren’t number one to everyone else, you’re #1 to them.
Have you ever gotten the sudden urge to be #1 in every situation you found yourself in? Suddenly felt like everyone hated you because you weren’t at the top of the pack?
Posted on June 29, 2012 by Felicia