I was watching an episode of Law and Order: SVU the other day and during the episode, Detective Stabler’s daughter decided she didn’t want to kiss him on the lips when leaving to go out to dinner with her mother and siblings. He seemed very distressed by this and it was then that I realized that he had kissed all of his other children on the lips before they had left the house. I’ve thought on this topic on and off throughout the years because, to me, I always found it odd when children and parents kiss on the lips.
Now, I realize that it’s not a romantic kiss, but rather one of affection, but this was not something that was practiced in my family so I’ve always found this practice a bit off. According to my husband is it actually rather common, so I thought that I would present this topic to all of you so I can see how common this actually is. This also got me to thinking as to whether or not there are positive and/or negative effects for kissing your children on the lips when they’re younger.
I cannot help but wonder if kissing one’s child on the lips encourages them to show affection. Maybe they show affection easier than others. I have to admit that I’m not huge on showing affection and part of me is curious as to it is due to not having that sort of affection when I was younger. Don’t get me wrong, my parents and family showed me a lot of affection, but I don’t remember every kissing either on the lips.
On the flip side, does kissing one’s child on the lips cause any negative affects? Perhaps they’re too affectionate and are the ones who push things just a little too far. This is all just questions and speculation, mind you, because I honestly have no idea and this is the first I’ve ever had any deep thought on the subject. It’s something I’m curious about, so let me turn it over to you, readers.
Do/did you, as a parent, ever kiss your children on the lips when they were younger? Were you kissed on the lips by your parents when you were younger and do you think it had an effect on you? If so, was it positive or negative?
Leave a comment letting me know your thoughts! I’ll either respond to your comment below or address your comment in a new post.Anna Trinchera
Posted on July 6, 2012 by Felicia