Since deciding to go into the counseling profession, I’ve heard a lot of reasons as to why people don’t want to go into counseling. People feel like it makes them seem weak. They feel that what is said during a session will be leaked to the public and that they may seem crazy, for example. Some people don’t take the time to think about the benefits that can come with counseling. Counseling can aid people in changing their lives for the better; though, it can take time to do this. For example, if you want to change the way you perceive others, it may take longer than if you want to communicate more effectively. Since deciding to become a counselor, I’ve come to notice a few key reasons someone begins counseling.
Have you ever tried to talk to someone and felt as though you weren’t being listened to? When you go to your therapy sessions, this is not something that you will experience. If you experience this, then I suggest finding a new therapist. One of the key reasons someone goes to counseling is to have someone that they can talk to that they know will listen.
Furthermore, people are often concerned that when they tell someone confidential information that it will become tomorrow’s gossip. When you go to see a therapist, you should have faith and feel secure that your therapist will not tell anyone what you said.
You are protected by confidentiality. Therapists are not able to share your information with others without your consent. The only exception to this is information which suggests you might do harm to yourself or others.
Difference of Perspective
By talking to a therapist and expressing yourself, you may also find a new perspective on a given situation.
Sometimes we get stuck looking at situations in a certain way. This is usually because we base our understanding of current situations on our past experiences. When you go to see a therapist, you may be challenged to look at a current situation with a different perspective or to look at the bigger picture.
For example, if you see yourself as a failure, a counselor may point out your accomplishments. By doing this, you will be able to see that you have had successes throughout your life. Your therapist may even go as far as having you write down your successes, mapping them out so that you can visually see what has led to your previous success and how to replicate that in your current situation.
Instead of being stuck looking at a situation in the same way that you’ve always looked at it, therapists will help you to branch out so that you can get have a different perspective. Hopefully by looking at your situation in a different way, it will also help you solve problems that you may have been experiencing.
Generally people go to counseling in order to fix a problem that they are experiencing—whether it is having difficulty dealing with the loss of a loved one, communication problems with a spouse or loved one, or coping with depression. A therapist will be able to help you to work through the problems and situations that you are experiencing, but it will take time.
Many go into counseling thinking that they’ll be able to attend one session and all of their problems will disappear, but, unfortunately, that isn’t the case. Counseling takes time and effort. You have to be ready and willing to make a change when you enter into counseling and if you aren’t, then it may fail. Your therapist wants to help you and is willing to put in the work even if you aren’t. At the end of the day, however, it’s up to you as to whether or not you want the help and if you are going to work at changing your life.
Seeking help can be scary. There are always some reserves to be had. You may be concerned about your privacy, that you will be perceived as being weak or that counseling won’t help you. Concerns are normal, but at the end of the day it can be beneficial not only you, but also your family.
Have you ever sought out counseling? What benefits did you find that came from it.
If you didn’t feel as though counseling was beneficial, what caused you to feel that way?
Posted on June 24, 2013 by Felicia