Before I discuss my vacation, there’s another topic I just have to touch on. There have been a few comments that I have received since opening my blog that I have, shamefully, ignored parts of what was being said because it made me highly uncomfortable. I was going to continue going on my merry little way putting them in the back of my brain, but I just cannot do it. It may be partially because it continuously keeps being brought up or because my morals and beliefs are kicking in big time. The comments that I am referring to that caught my eye pertain to “abuse” and “beatings” within the family, which sometimes seems to be seen as “okay” at least to some extent within this person’s family. Well, I have to say that any sort of harsh beatings or abuse in or out of the family is NOT OKAY.
You’ve probably read my blog posts on bullying, such as “6 Signs Someone May be Being Bullied” and “Sticks & Stones” and though I mentioned that bullies come in all shapes and sizes, that they can be strangers or ever someone you know; I never really dove deep into family abusers. Many people don’t understand that family members are just as likely to bully other family members as someone you may or may not know. It seems that it’s harder to accept that a family member is bullying or abusing you because they’re a family member and that’s not supposed to happen. It can sometimes also be harder to convince other family members that you’re being abused by another family member because they don’t want to accept it—especially if it’s a parent doing the abusing.
This is something that I cannot stress enough: If you feel as if you are being abused by a family member REPORT IT. The abuse is not going to stop if you let it continue to happen without saying something. If you’ve tried to tell a friend or another family member about the abuse and they didn’t believe you, then go straight to the authorities. You have to do something even if others don’t believe you because you are NOT in a healthy relationship. Don’t allow it to continue to happen, DO SOMETHING TO STOP IT.
Below you will find some great resources to help you if you feel as though you are being abused and you need help.
If you are experiencing an emergency, call 911 IMMEDIATELY or your LOCAL POLICE!
National Domestic Violence Hotline
Toll free, confidential, 24 hrs. Translators available.
1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or
Childhelp USA National Child Abuse Hotline
This hotline is for advice, information and to clarify options. It is not the same as reporting the abuse. You don’t need to give your name or name of the abuser to talk.
Toll free, confidential, 24 hrs.
1-800-4- A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453)
National Center for Missing and Exploited Children
Outside USA Resources:
American Domestic Violence Crisis Line
For American women and children living abroad.
International toll free domestic violence crisis line
10:00pm to 6:00am, Pacific Standard Time, M-F
9:00-am – 1:00pm T, Th.
Email them anytime at firstname.lastname@example.org
1- 866-USWOMEN (if calling from overseas, contact local ATT operator to be connected)
International Directory of Resources
International inventory of hotlines, shelters, refuges, crisis centers and women’s organizations, searchable by country, plus index of domestic violence resources in over 70 languages.
Photo Credit: Katherine Evans
Posted on July 18, 2012 by Felicia